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  • johnpi 3:56 am on February 9, 2010 | 0 Permalink | Reply
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    Love in Jordan: ‘Dress Western act Oriental.’

    In the corridors of the University of Jordan, young women sway their hips in tight jeans, embracing the latest fashion trend the West has to offer. Their male counterparts seem no less committed to showing off their looks, nor to a deeply rooted urge to catch the attention of flashy girls.

    This is one of the few places where young people can mix in a country built on strict gender segregation. Despite the superficially Western influenced culture, many young people express exasperation with the traditional mentality governing most people.

    But girls and boys, like in many oriental societies, often break the taboo and engage in a romantic relation. But the fate of most romantic adventures is in the end determined by family more than the lovers themselves.

    “This romantic relationship is veiled with secrecy, fear and deception,” admits Ehsan, a fourth year engineering student at the university of Jordan who says he must keep his family in the dark over this relationship if he wants to one day marry the girl.

    “My family does not know I have a girlfriend. Her family might kill her if they know,” he said.
    ….

    “Some of the young people refuse old tradition and want to make their own choices,” he said. “But this culture needs time to grow.”

    In Jordan, the majority of the 5.6 million population is made up of young people, with a ratio of two females to every male.

     
  • johnpi 9:28 am on February 8, 2010 | 0 Permalink | Reply
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    Muslim man wins handshake case in Sweden.

    Sweden’s unemployment agency has been found guilty of discrimination for expelling a Muslim man from a job training program because he refused to shake hands with a woman.
    A Stockholm court Monday ordered the Public Employment Service to pay 50,000 kronor ($6,700) in damages to an immigrant from Bosnia who lost his jobless benefits when he was kicked out of the program.
    Citing his faith, the man had refused to shake hands with a woman when he was interviewing for an internship. The agency said his behavior was part of the reason he didn’t get the position, and decided to exclude him from the program.

     
  • johnpi 7:53 pm on October 27, 2009 | 2 Permalink | Reply
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    Over at Muslimah Media Watch, Sara has a review of a play about a teenage girl who decides to start wearing hijab. The play focuses on the response of family and friends, but the young woman herself is never represented/explored. Sara writes, “The voice of the “veiled” woman has been noticeably absent from the discussion, and I had hoped that the play would provide a look from a young Muslim woman’s perspective.”

    I occasionally ‘wander’ through individual Muslims’ public personal blogs, and Sara’s comment reminded me of writing at one I visited recently, who explored the dimension of hijab as it relates to conduct toward men. The author ‘hijaabified beauty,’ defines the different categories listed below fully at her blog, but I’m excerpting the last class of hijaabi because as she said in comments on her blog, that’s really who she wrote it for.

    The “I don’t talk to or look at boys” hijaabi:…
    The “Strictly business” hijaabi:…
    The “he’s like my brother” hijaabi:…

    The “I’m covered and that’s all that matters” hijaabi: So, I have the HUGEST problem with this hijaabi. Okay, maybe that came out wrong. Let me explain. Non-Muslim men for the most part, don’t understand hijaab. They are men nonetheless, they hiss and howl like dogs in a meat market at the sight of a pretty lady…even when that pretty lady happens to be a Muslim lady in hijaab. I have come across countless occasions where I have been winked at, had kisses blown at and been flirted with (I’m not that pretty). My general response to such inappropriate behavior is to look the other way and keep walking. However, I have seen other sisters laugh, smile back and even wave. They think its funny, but what this sister doesn’t understand is that she just gave Islam a bad name. That man that flirted with her has no idea what Islam is or why we cover and by acting in such a manner you just showed him the Hijaab means nothing. No doubt, you can’t help that you are beautiful…Allah (SWT) made you that way, but its a test…and by acting immature…you’re failing. To me, hijaab is a form of Dawah. I use it explain why I can’t shake a strange man’s hand or why I definitely can’t hug him. I use my Islamic identity to explain why I can’t date, etc. When people mis-portray hijaab it upsets me.

    I would remind that though personal blogs are public, they are personal, so keep your adab around you if you have a response.

     
  • plimfix 11:49 pm on July 11, 2009 | 0 Permalink | Reply
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    JImmy Carter discusses his painful decision to sever ties with the Southern Baptist Convention after six decades of affiliation, following comments made by church leaders at the Southern Baptist Convention about the position of women, including the assertion that ordained women must be subservient to their husbands.

    Carter argues that the “same discriminatory thinking” explains the mistreatment of women justified by members of other faith traditions, including Islam, and also “why there are still so few women in office in Britain and the United States”. A point not made often enough, IMHO.

     
  • Mr Moo 2:19 am on August 5, 2008 | 1 Permalink | Reply
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    We present a helpful template for Muslim Men: The Only Letter You Will Ever Need

     
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